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I often have trouble forgiving others because of what I experienced as a result of what they said or did to me. Nobody was there for me in that pain and I actually believed some of the “not good” I was feeling about myself in those moments. Not wanting to feel that, I would blame the other person as being a mean, insensitive, uncaring, selfish, etc. That was all I could do to protect myself, but the price continued to grow with years of further distancing and protection. From him and her, from others as well. And they didn’t even do anything……yet.
So, forgive (for) yourself, be there for the hurt and pain you experienced, understand it and show compassion for it. That will begin to allow you to let go of the protection of blame, to forgive, to free oneself from a story that was never true in the first place.