Acting Out?

Focus on a child’s BEHAVIOR and soon find yourself in a punish/reward feedback loop that while initially efficient, ultimately leaves the child insecure, emotionally unsafe and disconnected.
Focus on the child’s NEEDS that give rise to the behavior and find yourself tuned in his emotions and his world, creating a safe haven, fertile ground for healthy sustained growth and development.
Ask –
What is he “acting out”?
What need is he trying to tell me about?