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Injury Becomes Identity

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A child is angrily scolded into submission. Out of fear, he complies, he corrects his behavior, the authority figure is satisfied. And there is a cost. "Injury Becomes Identity" The initial cost is the unseen wound of rejection wrought by the trusted elder's anger (children inherently initially trust adults). And that cost festers. It festers into the child's self perception that he…

Anything But Loneliness

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I often have parents come in sharing about how disturbing their child has become: "He constantly teases his sister" "She talks to me like I am a nothing" "He fights me on every decision" "She wears things that make her look like a..." And I remind them what I am constantly reminding myself with our own children: "Strife is better than loneliness" Creating noise in all of its…