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I Love You (especially) Here

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When he was very young, at times, our oldest son would hit me. I remember how hard this was as a new parent. I did not take it well and responded poorly, often with anger; driven by the fear of "what's wrong with him?", worse, "what's wrong with ME?" My experience is that the single most challenging aspect of being a parent is noticing a child's pain (beneath whatever confusing outwardly expression…

Death of the Heart

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"Where there is no memory, there has been death of the heart" -R. Nachman I often sit with someone and they tell me that they do not remember much from their younger years. That despite having had a "good childhood", the particular memories remain elusive. It appears that the beautiful person in front of me has had to turn off his heart. Emotionally lonely and unseen, the heart goes into hiding.…

Unconditional Love? No Such Thing

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There is no such thing as "Unconditional Love" Love is by definition unconditional and can be nothing else. If it's conditional it is not love, it is approval.

The Body and Soul of Love

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The only difference between the holy and the mundane is that the while the holy is united with and aware of the divine energy that brings it into existence at every moment, the mundane experiences THAT SAME divine energy as somehow SEPARATE from its existence. This body is thus devoted to the realm of the mundane while the soul to the realm of the holy. We are simultaneously trying…

The Second Time Around

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"Live as if you were already living for the second time." - V. Frankl This is helpful to me. It gently acknowledges that I get stuck. It makes space for the fear and other motivations outside my awareness that bring me to react to life and other people in a certain way. It acknowledges how that leads to consequences and experiences that may not be in sync with how I truly want to show up…