The Most Destructive Relationship Habit

If I had to summarize the single most destructive habit of an intimate relationship I would describe it as


“The Habit of NOT”


NOT sharing my sadness

NOT saying how you hurt me

NOT acknowledging when I hurt you

NOT sharing my gratitude

NOT fully embracing joy

NOT revealing my pain

NOT exposing my struggle

NOT trusting your love

NOT believing I matter to you

NOT admitting how much you matter to me

NOT allowing you to support me in my fear


If you were to choose 1 from the list (or use your own) and were to begin to work on doing the opposite, which one would it be?