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Lovers Facing Each Other and the Beyond

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Working with couples, the most significant shift I get the privilege of witnessing is when husband and wife turn to one another and share intimate emotional space. She may share her loneliness and how her angry attack is really a fearful, fear laden attempt to try and find him. He may share his fear of failing and disappointing her (again) and how withdrawing is his way of protecting himself and not…

You didn't make a mistake, its just hard...

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You didn’t make a mistake, it’s just hard… As a couple moves into later stages of their relationship, they often find they enjoy each other less and less.  This is generally the result of bickering; repetitive draining arguments about, well, just about anything. It's at this point that both individuals might say to themselves (or possibly to trusted others): “I think I might have made a…

3 Relationship Myths (and the truth)

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False Relationship Belief #1 Myth: You never hurt someone you love Fact: You most hurt (and are hurt by) someone you love. Not on purpose, of course, but pain is the price we pay for caring about someone deeply. The true love that is the stuff of a marriage is about what you do AFTER the hurt happens. False Relationship Belief #2 Myth : Happy marriage requires compromise. Fact: Compromise…

Marriage on The Moon

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“Tu B’Av” is the greatest Jewish holiday most Jews have never heard of. It’s the day that our tradition openly addresses the longing for of a loving, intimate relationship. Like other holidays (Sukot, Passover), it coincides with a full moon. Unlike, those other holidays, the full moon of Tu B’Av follows just a few days after the saddest and most painful day of the Jewish calendar - Tisha…

Getting Married? You Need to Know This.

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A young couple on the precipice of getting married once asked me: “What is the most important thing that we need to know about marriage”? I love questions like this. It forces me to put aside the “techniques” and tools that are often the merchandise of a marital therapist and delve into my fundamental beliefs about the project of marriage, its foundation and purpose. To preface, in addressing…

Have We Been Here Before?

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In this presentation, R. Bloom shows how the description of marriage in the Book of Genesis along and contemporary research on adult attachment merge to illuminate your recurring argument. Why do married couples often seem to have "the same fight" over and over again? Most importantly, how do you break the pattern? This class can be presented as a lecture or in-depth text study. Approximate Length:  Text…

Torah's Top 5 Marriage Hacks

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In this engaging and humorous presentation, Rabbi Bloom shares 5 easy to implement marriage "hacks" that can immediately improve your relationship. These hacks shown to be rooted in deep Torah wisdom and uncovering their depth provides oomph and motivation for couples to work them. Approximate Length:  Lecture 30 - 40 minutes Target Audiences: Synagogues Dinners/Fundraisers Scholar…

Dating After Diapers

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In this informative presentation Rabbi Bloom gives couples a Torah based, practical approach to enhancing the marital bond after the blessing of children. This class can be presented as a lecture or in-depth text study. Approximate Length:  Text Study - 60 minutes Lecture - 30 minutes Target Audiences: Schools (Parent Night) Synagogues (Adult Ed.) Dinners/Fundraisers Scholar…

Doing V. Being

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In this fascinating presentation R. Bloom explores the difference between masculine and feminine energy in the macro (creation) and micro (marriage). This presentation combines kabbalah systems thought with the practical tools and understandings of modern communication and attachment theories. This class can be presented as a lecture or in-depth text study. Approximate Length:  Text Study…

Connection, Addiction and Intimacy

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In this presentation Rabbi Bloom explores the soul capacity of Daas, our ability to bond.  Using Torah sources and psychological research, he discusses how refining this essential soul function is crucial in one's growth and maturity and will determine everything from the nature of our passions to the health of our relationships. This class can be presented as a lecture of in-depth text study. Approximate…